I had my brother Laird over on a double visit as he was passing through and back to Saudi Arabia where he has had been working on an air handling project in a project called KAUST (King Abdullah University for Science and Technology). Needless to say the project Kaust a lot and Laird was there during this trip to get their payments straightened out.
Actually, the greatest thing about this project is that I get to see him from time to time. He comes to Dubai for R&R or does a 1 day hit and run. But this last trip was most noteworthy. Laird was diagnosed with a type of vigorous upper colon cancer about 4 months ago. This was really bad news for our family as my mother had just left for eternity the year before. While the word cancer isn’t always the end of the trail, his was serious since it was already stage 4 (meaning really invasive and aggressive). He is 50 and very healthy, in spite of the fact he chewed tobacco, smoked cigarettes and had his fair share of drinking these past 4 or so decades.
Most remarkable is his fighter attitude and faith in his ambitions. He doesn’t look at this as.. oh I have to completely change my life style and be good and now live healthy, which is one of the reasons’ why he is still smoking and drinking. He did give up chew. By the way never give your can of anything to a tobacco chewer and tell them to hold it for you.
I did manage to venture a, “don’t you think it would be a good time for a life style change?”, which is a nice way of staying, “Maybe, if you stop smoking and drinking NOW it will help in the fight to recover.” What better excuse is there for quitting?
Laird has lots of stress on and off the job. If there is such a thing as a worker messiah then Laird is it. He is the guy you heap your problems on and walk away with a good feeling. He doesn’t dream regular dreams. When he was sleeping I was listening to his audible dream conversation. In one part he stated, “OK (some name).. I think you have gone over your 10 minutes.” I was trying to figure out what the other person was doing.
Because our parents were the educational types we argued a lot. My dad was always right and so was my mother. I remember clearly that I was always right too! All of our arguments went something like… statement…. (retort)… bullshit…(retort)… I aint listening to this load of crap. Just take and swap out the retort with the other things and that is pretty much how it went. When we were small we used crap or liar instead of bullshit… that was a really bad word.
I tried like hell to avoid any argument with Laird until he said buying a fuckin cup of coffee for two bucks at Starbucks is just so fuckin stupin dont you think - just as I was sipping my Starbucks coffee and he the one I bought him! Not to show I was so offended I said, “Yeah Laird, its just like paying five bucks for a pack of cigarettes”. He smiled as he tapped his pack to pack it down, and we both considered that was fair enough.. kill the seeds of an argument before they grow.
I told Laird, let’s just avoid talking about religion and politics, sex was OK but wasn’t a good idea to discuss in the UAE in public. So we sat there looking around the cafe as people walked up and down the Qasba board walk.
When I go home I got on the internet to read my mail and my brother got on the other computer to check his mail. I asked him if he ever saw my web site or the many links that I sent him regarding my poems and short stories. He looked surprised and said, “you wrote poems and short stories?”. I said yes, a long time ago I sent you links. He said, ” you know I don’t have time for links. If it is not written in my email I dont follow links! So where are they?”.
I loaded up the poems from my blog and I read them to him one by one and the short stories. When I got to the poem about our mother he looked over at a picture of mom that I had in a picture frame next to my bed. Actually, there were two pictures. One of my mother in the hospital bed smiling with oxygen tubes ( I asked her to smile and she barely coherent and conscious gave me a big big but painful smile).
Wanting to have something from her, I asked to write on a piece of paper “I Love you Christopher”. I came out a little cryptic but it is still in my wallet.